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Sep 26, 2012 16 Comments

The following story was sent to me from my friend and business partner, Mark Graydon:

On Wednesday evening around 6.30pm, I was driving home from a bar tending shift at Wolff’s Biergarten. My Mum and Dad are visiting from England to meet their new Grandchildren (my Twin boys Leo & Charlie), and my wife Greta and I thought it was time to introduce them to Stewarts ice cream, so I planned to pick some up before heading home.

I took the Slingerlands exit off I-90 and took the exit up to the Campus Access Circle around the Harriman State Office buildings. It’s a 40 mph zone and I was driving about 35 mph coming around the first corner. Out of the small, grass and tree area on the left, a dog ran straight into the road. I broke hard and swerved from the left lane into the center lane but devastatingly still hit the dog.

I almost burst into tears, as the realization of what had happened flooded over me instantly, and I turned into the car park on the right, jumped out of my car and sprinted over to the road. I saw an older gentlemen crouching over the motionless dog and all I could say was “I’m so sorry, I’m so sorry”. The older gentlemen stood up and very quietly, and obviously devastated just said “No, I’m sorry, I only let him off his leash for a moment and he chased a squirrel, I can’t believe this happened. I shouted for him to stop………” and he started apologizing to the dog, which was a Yellow Labrador Pup of about 1 year or younger, who had died instantly on impact. I was crying uncontrollably now because I have a 12 year old Yellow Lab myself, and seeing this man apologizing to the Pup was just too much to take in.

I ran back to my car to see if I had a blanket or sheet, but didn’t, and when I ran back to the man he was still crouching over the dog apologizing. It was so heartfelt and the man was in shock so I just tried to sort myself out for him and said we have to get your dog out of the road, and we carried him over to the grassy area on the left, under the trees. And this is really the first time that I have properly looked at the dog, and he was so peaceful, but that just made my heart break even more knowing that this terrible situation didn’t have to happen and this dog could live a long happy life. I offered to stay with the man, but he said he will call his family and it just felt like he just wanted to have these last moment with his dog alone.

I wish now that I had asked the man his name and especially the name of his dog as I don’t like just referring to him as simply “dog” or “pup”, as he wasn’t just a “dog” or “pup”, so I apologize for doing his memory a disservice here. This is without doubt one of the saddest moments of my life and it wasn’t my dog and I don’t know this man at all, but I have had both cats or dog in my family for as long as I can remember and they ARE family, not just ‘pets’, so this incident will always live with me. I know the man felt inconsolable and my thoughts are with him and his family.

I feel obligated to tell this story as it might make us all think when we let our dogs off the leash. I am certainly not here to preach or judge, as everyday I walk my dog, Honey Graydon, and she will start pulling when we near our house, so I let her off the leash to run past the last couple of houses to ours, where she stands proud at the front door waiting for me. I will not do this again.
This accident is a terrible reminder of how easy it is for something so tragic to happen.

Mark



Comments

  • LucyInDaSkyWithDiamonds
    Sep 26, 2012 at 11:04 am

    and i’m crying… thanks

  • SarcasticLauren
    Sep 26, 2012 at 12:01 pm

    I’ve never been the driver, but I witnessed it happen once. I pulled over and was crying so hard, the driver started apologizing because they thought it was my dog.

    It’s an awful thing and I can’t imagine having been in your shoes, with the owner appearing moments later.

  • carol b
    Sep 26, 2012 at 12:14 pm

    Very sad for all concerned.

  • al
    Sep 26, 2012 at 12:52 pm

    oh how devastating. rest peacefully little pup.

  • Nancy
    Sep 26, 2012 at 1:45 pm

    I cried as I read your sad tale. It is obvious that you are hurting and have a great compassion for animals. Give your dog a special hug for me.

  • Edna
    Sep 26, 2012 at 7:18 pm

    This story pierced my heart. God bless you Mark and give you peace,accidents happen. But yes,another devastating story of a dog let off the leash……so sad. :(

  • Julia
    Sep 26, 2012 at 9:38 pm

    :’(

  • Amanda
    Sep 26, 2012 at 9:42 pm

    In tears.

    This was a heartbreakingly beautiful story, and I agree a great reminder to leash your furry family members. Thank you for sharing it, Mark – I imagine this was not an easy thing to write.

  • hopeful
    Sep 26, 2012 at 9:48 pm

    How brave of you to share your story with us.

  • DMBW
    Sep 27, 2012 at 7:43 am

    Very sad and now I’m crying reading this at work no less. I hope this man or someone in his family is reading “FridayPuppy” and will let Matt know it is them. RIP Puppy

  • Ribbon
    Sep 27, 2012 at 11:05 am

    my eyes are full of tears reading this. I’m sorry for everyone involved. May the pup RIP and the owner find happy memories in the time he had with his beloved pet.

  • Jen
    Sep 27, 2012 at 11:07 am

    *crying at work* Poor pup, poor Mark. Thank for sharing, reminds us to keep our pups close

  • denise (mom)
    Sep 27, 2012 at 12:25 pm

    I am so proud of who you are and I feel blessed that you are in our lives. You are an amazing dad to not only your boys but also just as loving to honeybear and lilly

  • NRW
    Sep 28, 2012 at 11:51 am

    I am so sorry for the pup, his owner and for you. This is such a sad story, tears are coming down. But you are so wonderful and brave for sharing this, and it is also a good reminder. I have been tempted to let my dog of his leash when we are at the park by my house but it isn’t completely fenced in , and now I will never let that temptation win. I feel bad and want to see him run around free at the park but always worried that something would distract him like a squirrel and it would be over, just as what happened to this poor lil pup. Thank u for sharing this story, I am sure it was very hard to do.

  • Lily
    Sep 28, 2012 at 3:10 pm

    A sad and scary reminder of how quickly the flame of life can be extinguished. Matt, you were both compassionate and brave for stopping; many people would have just taken off without a second thought. I can’t imagine how sad both you and the man must be.

    A prayer for you Matt to continue to do the right thing, even when it is difficult. A orayer for the man to find comfort in the memory of his pup and to hopefully find a new furry friend to love when he is ready. And a prayer for his pup who is now in God’s garden, running free and waiting for the day that they will be united across the Rainbow Bridge.

  • Shelby
    Oct 13, 2012 at 2:16 pm

    I’m so sorry for you and the gentleman who lost his buddy. It’s horrible when these things happen, and sometimes it is unavoidable.

    Both you and the gentleman involved sound very compassionate. You didn’t exchange ugly words, just sorrow and grief. I’m sure the man feels just terrible about letting his dog off the leash. I’m sure you feel terrible for hitting the dog, sometimes terrible things happen. I’m sorry you had to experience that.

    I have nightmares about my little pup getting hit. So bad that I go as far as waiting for him hen he uses the bathroom outside. I also a granny driver because I live in a city, and cities are full of strays and wild animals. I wish I never had to drive again honestly!

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